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Day 6 Create a Life Map

15 Jun

On this day of the 31 Day Reset Challenge my assignment was to create a life map. We were provided a workbook to guide us through the process.

I wrote about my specific vision for the following areas of my life:








This so far has been the most difficult assignment for me.  I have been making great progress with my self-confidence, positive attitude and roughly one week of the 31 Day Reset challenge. But the strides I have been making have left me facing the possibility of living my dream sooner rather than later.  Great, right?

Well my first reaction is fear of the unknown.  I*know* moving to New York primarily for my relationship and potential career connections is what I want.  But it doesn’t look like the terms I have set (i.e. having a job secured BEFORE I move) are going to be met.Do I throw caution to the wind and go without any  employment? Or should I continue to make the “safe” choice no matter what my life goals are

I have identified what it is I want so how can I  make any further excuses or stall? It’s time for action! Right?  Right…..

(I’ll scan an upload my actual life map tomorrow)


Day 5 Write a Personal Mission Statement

11 Jun

I started by following Rosetta’s form. Then my own words started to flow.
This is my personal mission statement:

I value love, creativity, learning, service, traveling and adventure.

I appreciate long talks, gentle kisses, great food, laughter, hugs, playing cards and taking naps.

I will always make space for my own goals, dreams and desires. I will never let money,material things, fear or other people dictate my self worth, limit me or define me.

I will remember taking care of myself emotionally, spiritually, physically and mentally is not selfish or optional. Taking care of me is a necessity.

Before I die, I want to have made an impact on my community, my family, my professions, people of color and women.

I will leave a legacy.

What’s your personal mission?

Day 4 Envision Your Values In Action

11 Jun

I’m behind. Way behind. This is what usually happens. I start doing something for me and life gets me off track. Who says the 31 Day Reset Challenge can’t take more than 31 days? Lol. For my own peace of mind, I am going to try to catch up this weekend.

Today’s task is to rate myself 1-10 on how I feel I am acting out that particular value in my life. Then I have to list out three actions I am currently taking or should should be taking in order to honor and fulfill that value in my life.
The key, as with any self assessment, is to be honest. For some people this means going easy on yourself. I am one of those people. Acknowledging the things I am doing right is harder than acknowledging what I am doing wrong.
(Bold=should be doing)

Creativity — 3
Read design blogs for inspiration
Saving for a DSLR
Learning to sew
Painting my dining room set

Applying for jobs
Vision Board

Learning –7
Focused reading
German, photography, car repair, diy projects, and sewing

Funding Emergency Fund
Learn about and start purchasing dividend paying stocks
Make principal payments on student loans

Trying new things
Visiting new places
Taking advantage of my surroundings

Cincinnati, NYC 4x, Buffalo, Jamaica, Memphis and soon Portland
Budgeting money for upcoming trips
Plan more vacations

Bar activities
Volunteer and other service group involvement

Peace of mind–7

Personal Growth–7
31 Day Reset
Getting out of my shell

Love of Self–7
Hypnosis- especially focusing on forgiving myself
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Work on my outward image

31 Day Reset Day 3: Identify your VALUES

7 Jun

For this exercise I jotted down my values in no particular order.  Here’s  my list:

Love of Self and Others                                                                     Traveling

Money-financial security, charitable giving                            Learning

Adventure                                                                                              Creativity

Advancement                                                                                        Service

Civic and Community Involvement                                            Privacy

Peace of Mind                                                                                        Personal Growth

Family                                                                                                       Achievement

Being Supportive and Supported                                                  Leadership
Next, I had to narrow down the list to 10, my RESET 10.   Some of the things I listed overlap, but they are certainly all interconnected for me.  I had to ask myself what 10 things did I want to focus my energy on right now.  After reminding myself that I don’t have to conquer the world today, I settled on these 10:

Creativity:  acknowledging and fostering my creativity is something I have never really done.  As a child, my mother consistently sent me the message that I wasn’t creative like her and my middle brother.  I was just like my dad.  Analytical.  A linear thinker.  This was the lie I believed and likely a major part of the reason why I have always felt like my family really doesn’t know me.  Although I’m not going to rank the rest of them, this is probably the most important to me in the immediate.

Advancement: For about three years I have done little to advance myself professionally simply out of fear of failure, being inadequate and the unknown.


Money: I would like to have a healthy relationship with money.  Paying myself first is the goal.  This blog is to keep me accountable.

Adventure: Trying new things in new places.

Traveling: This kind of goes hand in hand with adventure, although not always.


Peace of Mind

Personal Growth

Love of Self: I think this value is the most important for my life.  Once I make progress in this area, I believe the rest will fall in line.

This exercise required me to take a hard look at what is important to me as compared to where I’ve been spending my time .  <—-This is completely out of line.  Some of the things on the list are difficult for me to address because it brings up negative experiences, personal failures and my perceived inadequacies.  But I’ve given myself permission to really “do me”. It isn’t as selfish as it sounds.  A whole, healthy and better me is more beneficial to the world.  After all I deserve all the good things I desire.

Life Assessment

2 Jun

It looks like I receive the daily assignment around 10 pm, which is a bit too late for me. Each night I listen to a hypnosis cd for about 30 minutes prior to going to bed. Doing the 31 Day Reset assignment plus my hypnosis cd plus blogging plus….you get the idea. I’d much rather get to work early in the morning to do my assignment. That’s exactly what I did this morning.
Rosetta has great a great worksheet on which you can do your life assessment.

I printed two. Was ready to go….then my mind started wandering. Being honest about what I wasn’t happy about in my life seemed daunting. Usually I focus on something I am unhappy about in my life then start beating myself up about it. Why haven’t I addressed it yet? Why did I let it get so bad? So to avoid having these negative thoughts, I have been avoiding this type of self-reflection altogether. But I’ve been working on my positive attitude and self-confidence. Soon, I dove right in. about each aspect of my life I had to answer two questions. What do I love? What do I hate? This is my life assessment:


  • I love my apartment
  • I hate that I haven’t consistently worked to decorate my space, I have no hobbies and I don’t hang out with my people.


  • I love being helpful to others, interacting with other professionals and my co-workers.
  • I hate not being challenged, being so behind-the-scenes and not seeing results.


  • I’m an attorney.  I did it!
  • My lack of practical lawyering skills.


  • I love having ZERO debt outside of my student loans.
  • I haven’t stuck to a budget, I haven’t increased my income in almost 3 years and I’m not making snowball payments on my Citibank Student Loan.


  • I love that I am taking stock of where I am and figuring out where I want to go.
  • I hate that I don’t attend church regularly and I don’t work out regularly.


  • We have FUN when we are together. Above all I know they accept me and have my back.
  • I hate the lack of boundaries and my inability to maintain sufficient boundaries to protect myself.


  • Being loved, supported in every way and having fun doing everything and nothing.
  • being too available.